What Are Swinger Friends With Benefits?

We all know what friends with benefits are. I’m sure at some point in your life, you have had one, or have been one, or maybe you are living your best FWB life right now?

But when it comes to swinging, and swinger relationships, do FWB still exist? And if so, where do you find them? I mean, truth be told, it all sounds pretty perfect! A swinger couple who you can play with, without fear of emotions getting caught up or complications?

But are swinger friends with benefits too good to be true?

It only seemed right that I made this article; after receiving so many questions surrounding managing emotions and swinger friendships, an article about Swinger Friends With Benefits had to follow. So if you do decide to go down this particular path, what can you expect? It's time for Thiskindagirl to give you some answers!

And what do you need to do to manage those emotions and keep living your best swinger life?

I know that I have been writing mainly for couples recently, and the questions I have received have been from couples. However, this particular advice is beneficial (excuse the pun) for single people and those in relationships. You may be a single person who is looking for a couple to be FWB or vice versa?

So what can be done to manage your swinger friends with benefits relationships? Luckily I have a few suggestions and steps that can make your SFWB relationships work for you.

Consider Compatibility

If you want a long term friendship, then how compatible other swingers are is so important. What do they want to experience? What are their desires and kinks? Are they people you can relate to? What do you have in common? Sometimes if you are all inexperienced, you can go on the journey together. I know it sounds obvious, but make sure you have sexual chemistry in the first place!

Settling for the first couple you meet and hoping for the best isn’t going to prove fruitful in the long term!

Discuss Boundaries And Rules

A TKG staple! All part of the swinger experience, discussing your boundaries and rules is number one! You need to decide how you would like to play and what level of friendship you are comfortable with. Meeting once a month, every other week? Are you wanting to chat in-between times or keep it strictly swinging? Some swingers are very social with their swinger friends and choose to socialise with them in the vanilla world.

You need to establish your boundaries and communicate them to any potential new friends.

Communication

Be honest with each other and any potential playmates. The more honest the conversation, the more you will get out of the lifestyle. What is and isn’t working for you? What would you like and not like to experience?

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, to be a great swinger is to be a great communicator, not just with those around you, but with yourself too. Be honest.

Understand That Dynamics Can Change

When I first started swinging, I was quite different to how I am now. What I want to experience has changed; how I like to play has changed. Some things I thought I would love have actually tuned out not to be my thing at all, and other scenarios I’ve been part of have surprised me. The dynamics within relationships can change too, and you have to be prepared for this. You may decide to go down the voyeurism route, or even the cuckold route, or perhaps your new swinger friends will?

Be Realistic

All too often, we can get caught up in the romantic ideals of something rather than the reality. Swinging is no exception! Forming attachments, expecting too much from your play partners, moving too quickly, or having unmatched desires can all lead to feeling disillusioned, unsatisfied and generally unsure about your involvement in the lifestyle.

Investing too much into one particular couple, or expecting others to feel a certain way, simply because you do is not the right way to approach swinging.

Being a swinger should add to your relationship or already fulfilled single life. Please don’t use it as a means to replace what you have or what you enjoy, but see it as a bonus, extra fun.

Appreciate that even though you may have swinger friends with benefits, they are following their own path, and you should follow yours too.